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Falling in love is like springtime, we feel as though we will be happy forever, we cannot imagine not loving our partner, love seems eternal, it is a magical time when everything seems perfect and works effortlessly, our partner seems to be the perfect fit, we dance together in harmony and rejoice in our good fortune

Throughout the summer of our love we realize our partner is not as perfect as we thought, and we have to work on our relationship, human always makes mistakes and is flawed in certain ways, frustration and disappointment arise, weeds need to be uprooted and plants need extra watering under the hot sun, it is no longer easy to give love and get the love we need, we discover that we are not always happy, and we do not always feel loving, it is not our picture of love, many couples at this point become disillusioned, they unrealistically expect it to be spring all the time, they blame their partners and give up, they do not realize that love is not always easy, sometimes it requires hard work under a hot sun, we need to nurture our partner’s needs as well as ask for and get the love we need it doesn’t happen automatically

The autumn of love, we get to harvest the results of our hard work, fall has come, it is a golden time-rich and fulfilling, we experience a more mature love that accepts and understands our partner’s imperfections as well as our own, it is a time of thanksgiving and sharing, having worked hard during summer we can relax and enjoy the love we have created

Then the weather changes again, and winter comes, during the cold, barren months of winter, all of nature pulls back within itself, it is a time of rest, reflection, and renewal, this is a time in relationship when we experience our own unresolved pain or our shadow self, it is when our lid comes off and our painful feelings emerge, it is a time of solitary growth when we need to look more to ourselves than to our partners for love and fulfillment, it is a time of healing, this is the time when men hibernate in their caves and women sink to the bottom of their wells

After loving and healing ourselves through the dark winter of love, then spring inevitably returns, once again we are blessed with the feelings of hope, love and an abundance of possibilities, based on the inner healing and soul searching of our wintery journey, we are then able to open our hearts and feel the springtime of love